What happens when you don't feel like it?
So what I'm talking about in this blog is "dreaming a new dream" for ourselves. Taking the responsibility to be as clear as possible in the moment about what our vision is, then using some of our energy and applying it in the metaphysical and physical dimensions.
But what about the times we don't feel like it? Maybe we don't feel like being so adult as to sit down, focus our minds and energies, face whatever resistances are there in the moment, and meditate or visualize?
It's true, sometimes we do need to just goof off or not focus our energies. Yet if we frequently avoid taking the responsibility to get basically clear on our goals/purposes, and do what we can to manifest them, we are probably unconsciously acting out a "child" or passive role.
These passive or childlike parts of ourselves may need attention, just like an actual child. It may help if we listen to these parts of us that seem to be blocking the growth our adult selves want. We may need to take the responsibility to relase/feel emotions that aren't so happy or fun.
Example? I know a woman - call her Jessica - who was not properly diagnosed with an attention deficit disorder as a child. She has a backlog of painful, self-critical failure experiences while trying to study in school. She just wasn't good at it, because her brain didn't work the way it was expected to, and no one knew enough about it to help her sufficiently.
So even now, when she needs to do simple research (for a new apartment or her taxes for example) she feels stupid and alone and incompetent. If she simply avoids the feelings that come up she may avoid those necessary life activities, thereby reinforcing her view of herself as childlike or incompetent.
The answer? As always, there's no one right answer, but in general it would help Jessica to get support for her feelings, and practical assistance with her logistics. If she does this, she will be taking responsibility for herself, healing her sense of aloneness, and getting the actual work accomplished too!
But what about the times we don't feel like it? Maybe we don't feel like being so adult as to sit down, focus our minds and energies, face whatever resistances are there in the moment, and meditate or visualize?
It's true, sometimes we do need to just goof off or not focus our energies. Yet if we frequently avoid taking the responsibility to get basically clear on our goals/purposes, and do what we can to manifest them, we are probably unconsciously acting out a "child" or passive role.
These passive or childlike parts of ourselves may need attention, just like an actual child. It may help if we listen to these parts of us that seem to be blocking the growth our adult selves want. We may need to take the responsibility to relase/feel emotions that aren't so happy or fun.
Example? I know a woman - call her Jessica - who was not properly diagnosed with an attention deficit disorder as a child. She has a backlog of painful, self-critical failure experiences while trying to study in school. She just wasn't good at it, because her brain didn't work the way it was expected to, and no one knew enough about it to help her sufficiently.
So even now, when she needs to do simple research (for a new apartment or her taxes for example) she feels stupid and alone and incompetent. If she simply avoids the feelings that come up she may avoid those necessary life activities, thereby reinforcing her view of herself as childlike or incompetent.
The answer? As always, there's no one right answer, but in general it would help Jessica to get support for her feelings, and practical assistance with her logistics. If she does this, she will be taking responsibility for herself, healing her sense of aloneness, and getting the actual work accomplished too!
posted by whitehorse at 6:35 PM
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